It was supposed to be a quick grocery order.
Milk, eggs, boring adult stuff.
But somewhere between “add to cart” and “checkout,” I took a tiny detour… and ended up tossing in a sparkly little vibrator like it was no big deal.
Fast forward to later that night:
My partner’s scrolling through the cart, frowning at the list — then pausing, smirking, and saying,
“Umm… when did this become part of the essentials?”
We both cracked up — and just like that, a flirty little accident turned into a seriously sexy conversation.
If you’ve ever wondered how to bring up the idea of using pleasure products together (without turning redder than a chili pepper), you’re definitely not alone.
Here’s exactly how to make that talk feel smooth, playful, and even a little thrilling.
Start With Why: It’s About Exploring, Not Replacing
First things first:
Make it super clear this isn’t about something lacking — it’s about making an already great thing even better.
Pleasure tools are teammates, not competition.
You might say:
“I read that couples who explore with toys have even more fun. I thought it could be something sexy we dive into together.”
Set the stage for adventure, not problem-solving.
Pick the Right Time (Hint: Not Mid-Thrust)
Timing can make or break the vibe.
Trying to drop the “toy talk” in the middle of a heated moment can feel jarring.
Pick a low-pressure time when you’re both chill, like:
- After a lazy Sunday morning cuddle session.
- During a wine-and-pizza night.
- While planning a cheeky weekend getaway.
The goal? An open, relaxed atmosphere where curiosity can thrive.
Keep It Light — Maybe Even a Little Flirty
This isn’t a boardroom presentation.
It’s an invitation to turn up the fun.
You could wink and tease:
“I found something that could make our nights even spicier. Want a hint?”
Or send a cheeky meme about trying new bedroom toys and let the laughs (and conversation) flow naturally.
Laughter is liquid courage.
Suggest Starting Small
No need to roll in like a walking adult shop catalog.
Ease into it.
Suggest beginner-friendly, low-pressure options like:
- A mini bullet vibrator
- A vibrating ring
- A silky blindfold
- A sensual massage candle
Think of it as a tasting menu, not an all-you-can-eat buffet.
Listen To Their Feelings, Too
Maybe they’ll be excited.
Maybe they’ll be nervous.
Maybe they’ll need a minute to picture it.
Every reaction is okay.
Stay open, curious, and kind.
You can even suggest browsing an online store together — treating it like picking out a sexy surprise for a future date night.
Share Some Fun Facts (Optional, But Can Help!)
Sometimes a little trivia works wonders:
- Couples who use love gadgets together report higher relationship satisfaction.
- Using bedroom accessories can boost orgasm rates (yes, please!) and strengthen emotional intimacy.
- Toys are designed to add to the connection you already have — not replace it.
Sprinkle these in like confetti — casually and playfully.
New Toys, New Adventures Together
Bringing sex toys, pleasure products, or cheeky love gadgets into your relationship isn’t about fixing something that’s broken — it’s about turning up the volume on what already feels amazing.
It says: “I trust you, I’m excited with you, and I want to keep exploring you.”
Start the conversation with a smile, a wink, and a spark of curiosity — and you’ll both be on your way to discovering a whole new layer of intimacy, excitement, and joy.
Keep it light, keep it playful, and keep saying yes to adventure.